Love Sick: The Number Game
Often in our society, if a girl has had many sexual partners, this labels her a slut and if a guy has had many sexual partners- well he’s still a slut, but he isn’t looked down upon for it.
This can become problematic when one day your boyfriend casually asks you how many sexual partners you’ve had.
Often times, people fudge this number, with men claiming more than they’ve had and women claiming less than they’ve had.
Now, while I think this is poppycock and that people should be honest in their relationships, I also realize it’s hard to admit things that you’re made to feel guilty about.
If you’ve had a lot of sexual partners, you don’t want to freak out your guy and make him question your morals, cleanliness and/or if you compare his techniques to all the other men you’ve been with (which you do), so you’re tempted to lower your number. However, you shouldn’t feel ashamed about your actions and a guy you’re in a relationship with shouldn’t judge you for them either.
On the other hand, if you have had very few or even no other partners, then you might be afraid that your guy will think you’d become too attached to them. This is dumb because, if you are in a relationship with someone- you should want attachment. Despite popular belief, most girls don’t plan on marrying the person they lose their V-Card with.
So what’s a girl to do with this loaded bomb of a question that’s dropped on her without warning? You could try distracting him by grabbing him by the face for a full on make out sesh in hopes that he’ll forget about it. However, he’s likely to remember and ask again later. So i have two other suggestions.
The first is to be honest and tell your true number in hopes that your boyfriend is confident enough in the relationship that he takes it in stride.
The second is to tell him that whatever the number is, it’s not important to your relationship because the only number you’re worried about now is number one and then point at him to indicate that he’s your number one. And maybe wink.
One more thing I’d like to add is no matter whether you tell him your number or not, DO NOT ask him his number. You really don’t want to know and you can’t go back from knowing that.
-The Love Doctor
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