Love Sick: iSpy
Living in the age of technology has made relationships more complicated than ever before. In one sense, it’s easier to hide things from your bf/gf because, through the use of texting, it’s easier to hide who you’re talking to. On the other hand, information that is posted publicly on Twitter and Facebook can be viewed by anyone, making it easier to feel suspicious of the person you’re with. It becomes far too easy to want to lurk your bf/gf’s pages, questioning every comment from someone of the opposite gender and pushing you to the point of paranoia. However, the worst form of this paranoia comes in the form of looking at your partners phone when he/she has momentarily left the room.
It’s so easy. You’re hanging out with them at their house and they leave to go to the bathroom, make a sandwich, rescue a kitten stuck in a tree and etc… you notice they left their phone behind. You look at it, it looks at you and soon you are holding it tightly in your hand, caressing the messages button, reading every little thing and SH*T! you hear your bf/gf’s footsteps scurrying back while you manage to quickly throw the phone back down and act like your transfixed by the Taco Bell commercial on TV.
Or maybe you try to be a little more sly about it bycasually craning your neck around to see what your bf/gf is typing or who they are typing to. If they notice, you pretend to be stretching your neck muscles and talk about how you need to do more yoga.
Later at night you question yourself who that person was that they were talking to, why they were talking to them and what it could it all mean!?
I’ll tell ya what it means. It means you don’t trust the person you’re dating and you’re unfairly assuming they are having some sort of emotional/actual affair with the person on the other end of that message.
I can’t say I’m not guilty of this myself, because trust me, I am. But I realized that my spying only made things worse and it showed that I obvioulsy did not trust the person I was with. If you can’t trust the person that you’re dating, the problem isn’t who they’re texting, but instead the actual relationship.
You need to ask yourself, why am I feeling the need to spy on my bf/gf? If it’s because you’ve been cheated on before and have insecurites, then you are being unfair to your bf/gf and not giving them the chance to prove their trustworthiness. If it’s because you specifically don’t trust your bf/gf because of something they’ve done, then instead of spying on them to try and prove your doubts, straight up ask them if there’s something going on. Or quite simply, get out of the relationship. If you can’t trust the person you’re with, then you shouldn’t be with them at all.
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