Love Sick: Revenge of the Ex

Ex-girlfriend’s. We’ve all probably had to deal with them at some point. And it has never been a pleasant experience.

There are a couple of different types of ex-girlfriend’s and thus a couple different ways to deal with them.

1. The Let’s-Be-Best-Friend’s Ex-Girlfriend: This girl is the one who your boyfriend is probably still friends with and she is likely not over him. In order to try and stay close to your boyfriend, she will attempt to become BFF’s with you. She will tell you that she has no interest in your man and that they are just really good friends. And then she will go behind your back and try to win him back. This girl lives for the motto, “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.” The way you must deal with this ex is to be aware of her fake personality and not fall for it. It’s best to tell her that you don’t feel comfortable being friend’s with someone your ex has seen naked and that she should probably back off from him as you are the boy’s number one girl now. Obviously, this will cause her to be very angry and she will probably work harder to win him back, but at least you won’t feel betrayed by a “friend” if she does.

2. The You-Are-Now-My-Mortal-Enemy Ex-Girlfriend: This girl is the one that wants to try and fight you in public because you “stole her man” from her even though he was single when you met him. Or maybe he wasn’t and you did steal him. Point is, this girl is dangerous. You want to avoid her at all costs as she will try to make your life a living hell until she has exhausted all of her jealousy and rage. In this case, it’s best to try and get your boyfriend involved to inform her that he left her on his own terms and to back off. But ultimately when dealing with this situation, I’d say move on and find another man. A guy you’ve just begun dating is not worth the drama or the danger that this kind of ex brings.

3. The Creepy Ex-Girlfriend: This is the girl that finds you on Facebook and has her roommate friend request you so she can lurk your page as much as she wants (no, seriously- this happened to me). Due to the prevalence of social media in this day and age, these girl’s run rampant. It’s very easy to stalk someone via the web and most of us can admit to being curious enough to at least look up the girl to see what her default pic looks like. The best way to deal with this is to make sure all of your social media is completely private and that you only accept requests from people you know. Though this seems harmless enough, it is borderline creepy. And given the right level of crazy, the girl could randomly show up at places that you’ve “Checked In” and take the stalking to a whole other level.

Ex’s are never fun to deal with, but at some point in each relationship, you must face the fact that you are not the first person your boyfriend has ever cared about. I’ve dealt with my fair share of ex’s and let me tell you, it’s never been a pleasant experience. It’s tough when your boyfriend still talks to an ex, but you have to evaluate the situation to determine if it’s harmless. I have been friends with many of my ex’s and know that I would never want to be in a relationship with them again, but I realize this might make future boyfriend’s jealous. So if I have a boyfriend that is still friend’s with an ex, I question it and ask them what level of friendship it’s at. If they still talk at least every other day, I’d say you’re in the danger zone and to beware. If it’s every other week, your relationship is probably not threatened, but still be on the look out. You never know when your going to get a call from your bf saying he’s getting back together with his ex, and that is never a fun situation so do your best to avoid it.

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