Love Sick: It Isn’t Easy Being Green

Recently I went to Las Vegas with my boyfriend and we decided to go see Holly Madison’s Peepshow. For those that don’t know, Holly Madison is a former Playboy bunny and ex-girlfriend of Hugh Hefner. So obviously, the show is a bit racy and for much of the show the dancers are topless. But I enjoyed the show very much and my boyfriend did as well.

Later when I told my sister about it, she could not believe that I would go to a show like that with my boyfriend. When I asked her why, she said that she’d be way too jealous to have her man looking at naked girls, even if it was just on stage for a show.

I’ve never been one to get jealous over a boyfriend looking at other girls naked. Obviously if it were just him and a naked girl in a room, I’d have a problem with it. But when it comes to topless shows, strip clubs or pornography, I’ve never felt the need to ban a man from his viewing pleasure. To me, banning boyfriends from watching things like that/getting upset at them for watching things like that, seems kind of silly. It’s human nature to enjoy ogling pretty bodies. Half of the reason that I tune into True Blood every week is in hopes of seeing Alcide with his shirt off. As long as they’re only looking and not touching, I see no reason to get upset.

However, I know many girls that would disagree with me on this. They want their man to only enjoy viewing their naked body. And yet, don’t they check out the cute bartender when they’re out with their girlfriends? What is comes down to is confidence and jealousy issues. I think it’s important for women to have enough confidence in their relationship that it shouldn’t bother them if their man is looking at pornography. It’s not as though he is cheating, he is just appreciating the human body in the same way you do when you pore over People’s Sexiest Man Alive issue. You don’t think about cheating when looking at those pictures do you? You just like the fantasy of it right? It’s the same thing for men and I think they deserve a break.

Obviously if they can’t stop looking at pornography or they are going to strip clubs every weekend with their friends, that is a problem that needs to be fixed. But the occasional topless show isn’t going to ruin your relationship, so just chill out about it already, OK? Clearly he thinks you’re the hottest chick around or he wouldn’t have chosen you to be his number one lady.