Love Sick: My Space

It’s inevitable. Everytime you begin a relationship with someone, suddenly you want to spend all your time with them and drop everything to spend every waking and sleeping moment with them. Eventually this so called “honeymoon stage” must come to an end. But what if that feeling is one-sided, with you left craving your free time while your partner is freaking out, asking you what’s wrong because you didn’t text them when you woke up just to say, “Good Morning!” and now they think that you’re seeing somebody else/hate them/think you died.

The more I date people, the shorter a honeymoon stage that I prefer to have and the more annoyed I get when the person I’m dating suddenly seems all clingy because I didn’t talk to them for a day.

Maybe I’m just not a very lovey-dovey person, but I honestly don’t have the time to drop what I’m doing at any given moment to make sure I have time to call someone back or show up at their doorstep. With college graduation looming very closely on the horizon, like a blood-red sunrise forcing me to open my eyes, I no longer have the freedom to fall completely into someone else’s life without feeling like I’m being tied up in a web of suffocation.

It’s hard being in this position because it seems unfair to a relationship, but at the same time, anyone who is approaching the end of their college career has a lot to think about in terms of their future and making sure they stay on track and get to the point they’ve been striving their whole life to attain.

This is why it’s hard to maintain relationships, or serious ones at least, in this stage of life. Unless you’ve already been with someone for years, it’s hard to not be selfish and put yourself first, even if it means hurting the person you’re with. I don’t think it’s a good idea to be in a relationship at this point in your life journey because there is just too much change going on and everyone needs to be putting themselves first when it comes to life-altering decisions that are being forced to make.

I’m not saying absolutly don’t be in a relationship at the end of college, just that you need to make sure that the decisions you are making are yours alone. You don’t want to look back on your life and regret not doing something because you were trying to please somebody else.

Or at least make your bf/gf aware that you are not going to make decisions based on them and that they need to accept that or move on to someone else.

-The Love Doctor

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