Love Sick: The Rubber Band Effect

For years, girls have grown up believing that boys are supposed to be the hunters and girls are supposed to be the hunted. However, with equal rights for men and women being better than they’ve ever been, many women now feel powerful enough to do the pursuing in the relationship. What they’re finding though, is that men are not very receptive to this. No matter how powerful women become in this world, relationships between men and women will never evolve from caveman-like ways. This is why women must learn to passionately pursue everything they want in life, but rein it in when it comes to desiring a man.

In several articles, this technique is referred to as the “Rubber Band Effect,” which basically breaks down into this: When you like a guy, and you feel like maybe he’s not being so receptive, you have to walk away from it and soon he’ll come bouncing back to you. It’s exactly the opposite of what you’ll want to do, but trust me, it works.

A few years ago, I used to be there for a guy at the drop of a hat if I liked him and I would constantly want to be with him. But eventually these relationships fell apart and I was left confused. Also during this time, if a guy was pursuing me and I wasn’t interested, I would just ignore him. But they never seemed to get the hint and would constantly try to set up dates or contact me, even though I never responded.

Through this process, I learned that guys kind of do like to be ignored. It seems to give them a challenge because you become somewhat of a mystery that that want to figure out.

So if you like a guy, be nonchalent about it. If he asks you to hang out, don’t say you’re free whenever, but instead tell them you’re busy and you’ll get back to them. If they text you, don’t respond right away. Leave them waiting. It will be hard because you obvioulsy like this person and want to talk to them and hang out with them, but trust me, they will want you way more if you’re a lot harder to get.

It’s like the old saying goes, “Why buy the milk if you can get the cow for free?”