Love Sick: Hit It

Getting hit on is often flattering and can lead to a relationship if it’s done the right way. However, it can also being annoying, unwanted and straight-up rude, especially if it happens while you are with your significant other. I don’t know what is going through a guy’s mind when he thinks that it’d be a good idea to hit on a girl who’s clearly with her boyfriend, but I do know that he’s obviously an idiot. I’m pretty sure there has never been an instance where a girl has been like, “You know what? The way you had the nerve to hit on me in front of my boyfriend was so hot, let’s get out of here.” No, that doesn’t happen. What does happen is that it creates an uncomfortable moment where your boyfriend gets mad and you have to both fend off the unwanted suitor and cool your boyfriend’s fuse.

Recently, I went to a bar and a guy hit on my friend right in front of her boyfriend. She made it clear she was not interested, but the guy persisted and it almost turned into an all out fist fight because her boyfriend was so pissed about it. It was unnecessary drama that could have potentially ruined the night. Not cool.

Well, I’m a lady who likes to avoid confrontation so here’s my advice on how to handle this type a situation and avoid having to bail your boyfriend out of jail for aggravated assault.

Be polite. I know this is probably the last way you want to act to someone who is so obviously not polite, but a little bit of sweetness goes a long way. Say something along the lines of, “I’m really flattered, but I’m in a relationship so I’m not interested. Good luck finding someone else though!” It’s really hard to act negative towards someone who is genuinely nice to you, so the guy will probably back off. If you respond with something like, “Back off asshole, I have a boyfriend,” the guy will react negatively towards that, escalating the situation.

Prove your relationship. After responding that you’re not interested, pull yourself closer to your guy to further show you’re unavailable and to give your guy assurance that you are definitely his and not going to run off with some random bro.

Call him out. If the suitor persists, saying things like, “What are you doing with this guy?” call him out on it. Say something like, “Obviously I’m happy in my relationship or I wouldn’t be in it. It’s none of your business, now please just leave us alone.” Hopefully at this point, with your continued politeness, the guy will finally get the hint and back off.

If the situation escalates to name-calling, yelling, or threats, get out of there. It’s best to ignore people like this and not give them any more fuel for their fire. Your boyfriend is probably going to fight the guy but you’re going to have to remind him that it’s not worth it. If you are in a business like a club or restaurant, find the manager and let them know that you are being harassed. They will kick the guy out and you’ll be able to enjoy the rest of your night in peace.



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