Love Sick: Wrap It Up

I’m sure all aunts think this of their nieces/nephews, but my niece is seriously the best child in the whole wide world. She is only three years old but so smart, funny and adorable. And I know I’m not the only one who thinks so because some of my friends ask how she is doing before they ask how I am doing. She is that stinking cute.

However, my niece is what you could call “an accident baby.” She was unplanned and my sister and the baby daddy split up over a year ago because frankly, the baby daddy is an idiot. He is too young, immature, and selfish to be a father and has even been absent for about a year of my niece’s life. I am more of a parent to her than he is. It is an unfortunate circumstance and I wish that my niece had a better father figure to look up to. And though I know that my sister would never give up my niece for anything in the world, I know that she regrets the person she created her with.

This is why it is so important to do everything you can to not only protect yourself from an unplanned pregnancy but to also be more careful about who you sleep with. I know that no-strings-attached hook-ups can be fun and exciting and you should be able to exercise your sexuality as you see fit, but you also need to keep in mind that the act of sex is meant for procreation. Would you be able to handle that guy you met at the bar for the rest of your life? Because if he knocks you up, whether you choose to be in a relationship or not, he will be in your life forever.

Obviously just because you get pregnant doesn’t mean you have to have a child. There are other options available like abortion and adoption and women are perfectly able to do whatever they want with their bodies. However, it may not always be such an easy decision. Especially if you’re someone who doesn’t morally believe in those options. Having a baby isn’t easy but it’s a zillion times harder when you’re forced to do it on your own because the father isn’t there. Trust me, I’ve seen it first hand.

And while you can do everything you’re supposed to do to try and prevent a pregnancy, sometimes it still happens, so you want to make sure the father is someone you’d be okay having a baby with. My friend has a rule that she will only sleep with someone if she thinks they would make a good dad. No, she is not trying to trick someone into impregnating her, she is just fully thinking of the consequences of her actions and I think it’s a pretty smart thing to do.

So ladies, have fun, have lots of sex, but just remember to do it safely and maybe be a bit pickier about who you do it with so you don’t have to spend the rest of your life splitting holidays with someone you hate.